1. Do what you say you will do.
Call when you say you'll call,
make her believe you're a loyal boyfriend
with a sense of follow-through.
2. Randomly clue her in.
Share what you're thinking when
she's not probing you for information,
tell her about your thoughts and dreams,
make her believe she's worthy of your secret thoughts.
3. Not out of sight, out of mind.
Give her a call or drop her a text
when you're out with your friends to let her know that
she's on your mind even when you're apart.
4. Maintain contact when out together.
Catch her eye from across the room
you're out together at a party,
let her know that you know you
have the best date in the room.
5. Prove you're observant. Let her know that
you notice her appearance,
give her suprise compliments,
make it clear you appreciate her.
We like what Hartwell is saying to all the men
out there who date clingy women.
We think that the needy,
clingy women of the world could use some tips of their own,
however (after all, the best transformation
techniques are those we can oversee ourselves, right?).
1. Have your own life. Remember what you were like
when you and your boyfriend first met?
You had friends, hobbies, and lots of things that
were not centered around him.
Make sure you're still keeping up with those things.
Doing so will make you happier, more interesting to him,
and less likely to fixate entirely on your relationship.
2. Schedule things out. Having a weekly date night,
a monthly day trip, or regular evening text session on
both your schedules can give you the sense that things are
less amorphous and provide both of you
with something to look forward to.
3. Tame those "what if?" demons.
Stop thinking "what if?"
every time you're apart
(What if he sees a prettier girl while
he's at the bar with his friends?
What if he's not calling because
he's on the phone with his ex?
What if, what if, what if).
Whenever your anxious thoughts
start to spin out of control,
remember that "what if?"
is a lot less important than WHAT IS.
And then remind yourself of what the
reality of your relationship is.
4. Remember that you're great.
You're beautiful. You're smart.
You're fun. If you weren't,
then he wouldn't have started dating you in the first place.
Remind yourself from time-to-time
of just how amazing you are.
Regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not,
it will make you feel more secure and centered.
5. Tell him outright. If the reason you're
acting clingy is because
he's treating you like you don't matter,
then it's time for a talk.
It may be the case that he doesn't realize
how he's making you feel.
It may be that he's just not into you anymore.
Tell him, and if he refuses to work on
making things better, get out.
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