Brigadeiro's Nursing Style/Tips

A little while back, Anonymous wrote:

(...)Being pregnant myself, I really enjoyed your post on how to dress during pregnancy. Thanks for all the good tips! I would love to hear your thoughts on how to dress while nursing. As you say, I think that will be more difficult than dressing while being pregnant, so please, can you offer some advice?(...)

Firstly, apologies for taking so long to get back to you; ever since lil J's arrival I feel like my time is no longer my own...Now, I must admit that at times I struggle to find a decent outfit to wear that will allow me to nurse whilst out and about, I was told that dressing whilst nursing was harder than dressing when pregnant, and that is absolutely true. I have not lost one gram since lil J's arrival, so having to hide my 'pregnancy weight gain' as well as having to dress to be able to nurse at the same time is often challenging, so this is something I am trying to figure out myself. I have searched for 'nursing clothing' only to be flabbergasted at how unflattering and ugly the options available are. However, many of my staples that I wore during my pregnancy still serve me well:



I could not live without my Bonds maternity singlets and my many pairs of black leggings, they form the basis for most of my outfits. I also wear my Gap pilates black pants to death, so the pants and/or jeans that you may have been wearing during your pregnancy will continue to be of use whilst nursing. Some other 'principals' discussed in my 'pregnancy style post' still apply to my 'nursing style' too, that is why my maternity black singlets are so versatile, as I wear them under different cardigans, vests, button-shirts & shirt-dresses, coats and jackets:

Another item I have been wearing to death is my black jersey wrap dress, it is my 'safe go-to' dress and I try to change its look each time with different accessories. A stretch jersey wrap (or low v-neck) dress (with or without sleeves) is an absolute must for anyone's 'nursing wardrobe'. Be sure to pick one that is very stretchy and/or relatively low-cut so that you can pull it down when required.

Shirt-dresses are also great (I have used my TOV checkered grey shirt dress a lot):





I also look for tops/dresses that have buttons or a zip that go low in the chest (like the Willow cashmere sweater dress I recently purchased), Henley tops are great for casualwear:

I bought the Vanessa Bruno faux (the buttons do not unbutton) double-breasted jersey navy top (bottom left) a few years ago, and absolutely love it, now even more so, as I can still wear it whilst nursing...

Here are some items I have recently added to my wardrobe to facilitate my 'nursing style':

TOV checkered shirt dress (love the billowy style which hides my post-pregnancy bump, as well as the low buttons which allow me to nurse)

Dries Van Noten embroidered blouse (adds some interest to my 'basic' outfit)
Willow cashmere sweater dress with front zip at the top part of the dress (great for layering once again)

Vanessa Bruno wool jersey blouse

Yes, I bought the Vanessa Bruno tops in two colours...as I wrote in my 100th post (Brigadeiro's Shopping Tips), when you find something that works well (and these were at a very good price), it often pays to buy them in as many colours as you can find them in, as you never know when you will come across another piece like this.

It is currently Winter Down Under, so layering has been key, in addition, a lightweight scarf serves double duty as a stylish nursing 'cover'...Capes and capelets also work well as a stylish 'cover' (although I have yet to use this Burberry Prorsum ombre cape I purchased a few months ago):



Unfortunately, 99.9% of the time I have to wear clothes that can be spit up on, and I save the nicer items for special occasions (lately dressing up occasions have been few and far between)...

Do you have any tips on 'nursing style'?

Would it be helpful if I picked a few items that are currently available for another post?

Brigadeiro's Maternity/Pregnancy Style post revisited

Thank you so much for your positive feedback and emails on my recent post on Maternity/Pregnancy Style tips, and also for all your well-wishes and sweet comments!

A few readers asked whether it was possible to dress stylishly whilst pregnant with a smaller budget than examples I selected from net-a-porter, and of course you can! I used those examples as I find NAP easiest to search for with clear pictures. The aim of my post was to show that many of us can get away with going through pregnancy without having to add many pieces to our wardrobe, by just selecting items we already have, wearing them with good basics/staples and accessorizing...

I have found some further examples from Witchery (Australian high street store - loved the striped cardigan, although I find AUS$150 a little steep for a Witchery cardi), Topshop and Matches Fashion (usually a higher-end online store, but I selected some items on the lower end of the priceline). Most of these items are not actual maternity wear (I think only 2 may be actual 'maternity' pieces, from Topshop). Clicking on each picture should take you to the actual website where you can purchase these items (or see better/bigger pictures). Apologies if the items selected are repetitive...

Cardigans

Vests/Tops

Leggings & Pants



Topshop trackpants & Sportmax silk-mix draped pants (love these!)

Dresses

Vanessa Bruno Cotton-Mix Jersey Dress & American Vintage Jersey Maxi dress

It is definitely worth going through your 'normal' wardrobe to identify any items that you currently have that will be 'usable' during pregnancy...jersey dresses that drape or skim the body, elasticated waists or empire-line tops and dresses, yoga/pilates pants & leggings, stretchy long tops or dresses...

I am going through a similar process at the moment, except now I am trying to ID items that may come in handy in the next stage...nursing!

Brigadeiro's Maternity/Pregnancy Style Tips

I recently received a lovely email from a reader:

(...) may I ask you some tips for finding stylish maternity clothing? I didn't realise you're 8 months pregnant until you mentioned it in the blog! Your outfits are so stylish and comfortable. It's such an inspiration to all :) I'm 4 months pregnant myself and I am struggling to get clothes which I like and comfortable at the same time.. It would be absolutely wonderful if you could share your thoughts ?? :)...

Thanks TC, for your sweet words...you are too kind! And congratulations, once again! I am actually 9 months pregnant (2 weeks to go!), and cannot believe I made it this far without actually purchasing an actual 'maternity' piece of clothing (although my lovely sister did bring me some GAP maternity pieces from the UK, of which I have used the black yoga/pilates pants quite a bit, but have yet to wear the others...oops!).

Firstly, I must admit that I did not have to change my wardrobe too much since the beginning of my pregnancy, mostly because I have been trying to hide my non-pregnancy-related expanding waistline for the last few years already, and so mostly stuck to the 'principles' I once wrote about in an early post: Dress Size Yo-Yo: what to wear you when your weight swings. So it may be that most of the clothing you need may be in your wardrobe already...

Basic Maternity Wardrobe Staples:




I have found that my basic maternity/pregnancy wardrobe 'staples' have been:

1. Black lightweight cotton jersey leggings - these are great worn under flowy/body-skimming dresses, especially in the later months, with the expanding belly making the dresses shorter and shorter...I find my Velvet by Graham Spencer demi-sheer cotton jersey much more comfortable than the usual 'stocking/tights' leggings, wish I could find myself another pair. In Winter (when I was in Japan), I found my Falke Merino wool tights to be indispensible (mostly because I did not have one pair of pants to wear).

2. Black stretch cotton jersey tank dress - I have had this dress for over 10 years (a thicker cotton version of the dress above, from Witchery), that I have only started to use in the last few years, as I was not game to show my 'curves' before (funnily, I used it when I was a lot heavier than when I first purchased it). This tank dress is incredibly versatile, worn under body-skimming/loose tops, vests or even blazers/jackets/cardigans, just make sure it is quite stretchy and fairly long (knee length) to cope with the changing body.


Witchery cotton stretch tank dress under Chloe tunic - at 9 months pregnant

3. Maternity undergarment - Bonds make great comfortable underwire-free bras (best to avoid underwire bras during pregnancy) and long singlets (I only purchased a few of their black singlets this week, mostly in preparation for the coming weeks, but I can see that these would have been very versatile in my 'pregnancy/maternity' wardrobe). Long singlets are great, as they allow you to layer under shorter tops that would otherwise reveal your belly.

4. Black yoga or pilates pants - Even though I only got mine relatively recently, these are incredibly versatile, and I have worn mine by GAP with loose flowy tops as well as fitted long t-shirts.

5. I have heard/read that it is worth investing in a pair of maternity jeans. Due to my expanding waistline the past few years, I have seemed to 'cope' without wearing jeans for so long that not being able to wear them during pregnancy made no difference to me. However, if you currently live in jeans, and cannot imagine life without them, I would highly recommend investing in a pair. Seven for All Mankind make great maternity jeans...My sister gave me a pair from GAP, but I feel terribly guilty that so far, the tags are still attached to them...that is mostly because it has been too warm for jeans.

6. Flat shoes - Heels are great, but not while you are pregnant (for most of the time, although occasionally I would wear heels for 'special occasions' that did not require me walking/standing for long). Ballet flats (Lanvin were my 'weapon' of choice), Birkenstocks, Havaianas and my Chloe riding boots (during my trip to Japan in Winter) have been my friends the last few months.

Brigadeiro's Maternity/Pregnancy Style tips:

1. Avoid baggy or “men’s” clothes: Don’t wear large, oversized tops or dresses that only make you look bigger. Instead, wear pieces that drape and/or hug your body, I am partial to the former (drape). Wrap dresses or a flattering top with jeans/leggings are much more flattering than a shapeless oversized tee...

Pictured at 5 months pregnant (although I managed to use this Rachel Roy dress up until 7-8 months pregnant, thanks to the elasticated waist, and draped design).

I used this Nathan Jenden throughout my pregnancy, and most recently, around 9 months, which I called my 'magic dress', thanks to its stretchy wool fabric and elasticated waistline, I was always surprised when the size zip would do up, no matter how large my belly got.

Diane Von Furstenberg Liddie & Milton dresses from NAP

2. Wrap it up. Wrap dresses are fabulous for maternity wear, try to opt for those with slightly stretchy fabric, as it is not only the waistline that expands during pregnancy, but especially the bust line, and also the arms, etc...

from NAP (click on items to lead to details) - although true wrap dresses (those that require you to wrap and tie), such as those by Diane Von Furstenberg & Issa may be even more flexible in sizing...

3. Favour V-neck dresses and tops. V-necks are slimming and for those who wish to show off a recently-pregnancy-enhanced cleavage, this is the silhouette to go for.



This Ilana Moses silk slip dress has been incredibly versatile! Having bought this when I was 20 kilos lighter than I am now, I am astounded that I am still able to wear it, Summer or Winter, pre-pregnancy or 9 months pregnant. That is thanks to its elasticated empire bust line and flowy/draped silhouette. This dress is fabulous for layering!

4. Wear colour. A timeless LBD always works, but colour is great to show off that pregnancy glow.


4 months pregnant

This picture also reminds me that wrap skirts/sarongs are incredibly useful and versatile during pregnancy, as they can be tied in a variety of ways. They are comfortable, as they are adjustable, and you can knot them to give the silhouette some shape, if you wish (as above), while disguising a bump...





5. Accessorize. Accessories provide the finishing touch to every outfit. Necklaces, bracelets, earrings, and handbags are the must-have final touches to pull your look together.




All around 2-3 months pregnant

6. Layer. I have managed to wear the same dresses in Winter as well as Summer thanks to layering. With warmer weather the same dress you wore in Summer can be worn over a t-shirt/blouse/wool knit or under a cardigan/blazer/vest/coat when the weather cools down.

I still wear my Akira wool/silk dress today, with body-skimming silhouette, from Winter to Summer:



6 months pregnant


6 months pregnant

Strapless dresses are also great for layering, like my 3.1 Phillip Lim rosette dress:



2-3 months pregnant

7 months pregnant

Cardigans





Vests


I have used my Phi silk vest so much! Layered over almost anything...


7. Maxi dresses look fabulous, and are effortlessly elegant but also roomy, so you won’t feel restricted by your clothing. I am thinking of wearing this Akira maxi silk embroidered dress to my cousin's wedding tomorrow, layered with my Topshop sequinned blazer:

Pictured around 2-3 months pregnant, worn from pre-pregnancy until 9 months.

from NAP (click on items to lead to details) - the latter two are great for layering.

8. Empire-line tops (and dresses). They can be worn with stretchy skirts (or over a stretchy tank dress), slim-cut pants (or yoga/pilates pants) or a wide-legged trouser or jeans, so are a great addition to your non-pregnancy wardrobe.

9. Don’t buy anything with a high waist. the low-rise cut is the way to go in terms of comfort (including leggings and tights).

10. Do not forego wearing an item of clothing because you cannot do it up. Ok, so I could still 'do up' the items below, but I have worn shirts, coats, jackets and button-dresses open, to 'jazz up' a basic/simple outfits

Complex Geometries silk split square dress, CG has a gorgeous variety of drapey pieces that can be worn throughout your pregnancy (as well as before and after). Other great drapey labels include Pleasure Principles, Future Classics, Harputs Own, Humanoid, Sosume etc...

Thakoon coat dress (shown buttoned up around 5 months pregnant), worn up until 9 months pregnant unbuttoned.

11. Go tracking. The tracksuits currently available are not simply limited to the LA celeb 'Juicy Couture' type, for lounging around the house or for casual wear, I love a pair of comfortable pants:

from NAP (click on items to lead to details)

For those who wish to purchase actual 'maternity' clothes, I did find the range at Topshop and Isabella Oliver tempting...

Hope this post helps a little, I am afraid I did not have much time to put it together, and welcome more tips on pregnancy/maternity style from you all...